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The Power of An Apology: An Eric Tataw Era

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The Power of An Apology: An Eric Tataw Era.

An apology is never a weakness. It is strength. It takes a good man to say ‘I am sorry’. Sometimes you say sorry not necessarily because you are wrong. Sometimes you say I am sorry because you want to pacify the area and allow things to move smoothly. Sometimes all the evidences and facts show the other party is wrong, but you just assumed it and say “Sorry, can we move on?”

Very few people say sorry, especially in the leadership world. To me, sorry is strength, it heals so fast, especially when it comes from the heart. I do that often, to me saying sorry is ABC. Sorry does not have age, no limit. It must not always come from the junior, less privileged or least powerful people in the society, etc. Saying sorry is a two way traffic. It is also most genuine if those you think you have hurt personally, you reach out to them one/one to say “I did this and that, I was wrong, I am sorry”

My mum says that to me whenever I called her attention to some things I think it is wrong or when we argue about some things and that breaks me off almost immediately. That is what sorry does-it breaks the opposite person off and immediately settles what could have been complicated. I have experienced this over and over. You should try it often, you will see. Sorry releases your burden and imprisons the one who does not want to let go-such individuals become vexation, even to their own immediate family and it is never good for our health.

That said, when someone apologises, it should never be used as a means to clamp down on that person, or seen as a weakness or it does not mean that an individual can no longer have a voice in proposing ideas or supporting what he wants to support. It should never be used as a mockery, to insult the integrity of that individual because only the brave recognises a problem, says sorry then move on to make it better.

Eric Tataw has turned a new page and it works best for our revolution and it should be so. This is exactly what we need. Frequent poking or flimsy statements against his brave moves are not welcome. He is still a bonafide activist with a strong voice-do not forget that. The revolution is a transition remember. As we move on, many more strong voices will come and go as some left.

As we get into the Christmas season, let us embrace the power of apology-the Eric Tataw era. let us find the grace during this period amongst ourselves Ambalanders to say sorry to those we have duly wronged but let us NEVER deviate from our founding principles or be bullied to be silent over what our heart truly tells us to support and preach. A conscience that does things not directed from his/her own conscience is self imprisonment in itself. That alone is enough. Ambazonia shall be free.

Happy Xmas in advance

Mark Bareta

Otto Ama
5 Comments

5 Comments

  1. Mukong

    November 24, 2018 at 4:02 AM

    Personally I was greatly troubled by the language Eric used to characterize some of our women/sisters in this revolution. For Eric to have apologized to these our women/sisters publicly and in private says a lot about his commitment to the restoration of our dignity. For this action of his, I say “Thank you Eric and May God continue to guide you in your speech and actions”.
    And for those who want to be sanctimonious, they are free to continue to throw stones.

  2. Mbeuh

    November 24, 2018 at 10:34 AM

    I am appealing to Tapang Ivo to come down from his high horse and not only accept Tataw’s apology but to return same to him and others that he too has clashed with in the past. Easier said than done. I watched the live feed between the two and it seemed Tapang was constantly projecting himself from a higher pedestal. Brothers, let go for once and work for the good of our dear Ambaland, for those who have paid the ultimate price and for the brave fighters who are risking life and limb to defend LRC daily onslaught. Peace and blessings to 8 million Ambazonians. Our day of liberation is drawing nigh.Thank you Eric and to you too Mark. You added your two cents words of wisdom and least but not the last, thanks Kingsley for initiating the reconciliation.

  3. mbeuh

    November 24, 2018 at 10:36 AM

    last but not the least….

  4. Malis

    November 24, 2018 at 5:49 PM

    An apology first deals with oneself alone, then oneself and the creator, oneself and those been apologized to and finally oneself and some collective.

    An Apology is independent of those been apologized to. Those been apologized to can accept it or refuse it, that is their right, but they are unable to change that fact that an apology was made. They can not even influence anything about the apology.

    If a person truly apologizes, then he accepts his own apology and God accepts it too. Whatever people want to say, is irrelevant.
    Some people refuse apologies and then realize years later that it is the biggest mistake they ever made.

    In African culture, there is a very clear difference between the vocal presentation of the apology and the actual living of it into reality. The most powerful thing of an apology is not that it was vocally presentation, but that it is lived out as reality into the world after the vocal presentation.

    We all are imperfect just like Eric, but Eric is one that has openly vocally apologized and is living it, but still, some of us want to crucify him.

    I’m so happy that the Creator (God) is not humane but godly.

  5. Cold Matutu

    November 28, 2018 at 8:06 PM

    IG should apologize to Anglos for misleading, kidnapping and murdering school children.

    Such a move is going to appease epaza motto.

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