The Power of An Apology: An Eric Tataw Era.
An apology is never a weakness. It is strength. It takes a good man to say ‘I am sorry’. Sometimes you say sorry not necessarily because you are wrong. Sometimes you say I am sorry because you want to pacify the area and allow things to move smoothly. Sometimes all the evidences and facts show the other party is wrong, but you just assumed it and say “Sorry, can we move on?”
Very few people say sorry, especially in the leadership world. To me, sorry is strength, it heals so fast, especially when it comes from the heart. I do that often, to me saying sorry is ABC. Sorry does not have age, no limit. It must not always come from the junior, less privileged or least powerful people in the society, etc. Saying sorry is a two way traffic. It is also most genuine if those you think you have hurt personally, you reach out to them one/one to say “I did this and that, I was wrong, I am sorry”
My mum says that to me whenever I called her attention to some things I think it is wrong or when we argue about some things and that breaks me off almost immediately. That is what sorry does-it breaks the opposite person off and immediately settles what could have been complicated. I have experienced this over and over. You should try it often, you will see. Sorry releases your burden and imprisons the one who does not want to let go-such individuals become vexation, even to their own immediate family and it is never good for our health.
That said, when someone apologises, it should never be used as a means to clamp down on that person, or seen as a weakness or it does not mean that an individual can no longer have a voice in proposing ideas or supporting what he wants to support. It should never be used as a mockery, to insult the integrity of that individual because only the brave recognises a problem, says sorry then move on to make it better.
Eric Tataw has turned a new page and it works best for our revolution and it should be so. This is exactly what we need. Frequent poking or flimsy statements against his brave moves are not welcome. He is still a bonafide activist with a strong voice-do not forget that. The revolution is a transition remember. As we move on, many more strong voices will come and go as some left.
As we get into the Christmas season, let us embrace the power of apology-the Eric Tataw era. let us find the grace during this period amongst ourselves Ambalanders to say sorry to those we have duly wronged but let us NEVER deviate from our founding principles or be bullied to be silent over what our heart truly tells us to support and preach. A conscience that does things not directed from his/her own conscience is self imprisonment in itself. That alone is enough. Ambazonia shall be free.
Happy Xmas in advance